I mentioned in an earlier post that I'm new to facebook. I'm still learning and I still have some problems. If I met you briefly 10 years ago chances are I wont remember your name. I have a terrible time remembering names. But...I will remember your face. Some of the people who ask to be friends on facebook don't show their faces. So I have no idea what I'm getting myself into. Why do you want to be my friend and why do I want to be yours? One friend told me to say yes to everyone. Another told me to say no to anyone who's name or face you don't recognize. I have no idea what to do.
Joe puts up a picture of his dog. Sandy puts up a cartoon character. Sylvia shows me her kids. Am I the the father or is this just being cute? It does me no good trying to figure who you are.
I am the last person in the world who thinks we need to be bogged down by a lot of rules. I've just spent 2 days trying to get my dad home from the hospital. They need the bed...he wants to go home...my mom wants him home. Geting him out is win..win..win. We're all on the same page but when it comes to actually getting it done we're not reading the same book.
This is why we need rules. It's like being in the drive-thru at Tim Horton's. The idea of the drive-thru is to get us in and out as quickly as possible. So do not order food. This needs to be a rule. I'll let a donut slip by but don't order a sandwich, soup, or their latest breakfast delicacy. Large regular and a medium double double. It's that simple. You want food...go in and order it. I was in line at a Tim's one morning at 1 am. I was going to work. I sat there for 20 minutes because the car ahead of me ordered 7 sandwiches. The woman at the takeout window thought it was a serious case of the munchies. We need to be civilized. We need Tim rules.
I have friends who are lawyers. Flip a looney to figure out who's buying the next round and before the coin lands they've got a 12 page draft on the table covering covering every concievable possibility. I thought...heads or tails. They want to argue it in front of the supreme court.
If there's a little old lady behind you going into a store...hold the door for her. That needs to be a rule. If you're over 40 do not wear your baseball hat backwards. That needs to be a rule. If you're going bald a combover is not an option...shave your head and grow a goatee. That needs to be a rule.
Actually what I really want here is to put a face to the name. That way when we're going back forth I have a mental pitcture of who I'm talking with. Even if we don't know each other it makes it more comfortable. I feel like I really am getting to know the person. Doesn't have to be a rule but it would be nice.
Public personae a.k.a. famous people should accept anyone as a "friend" on Facebook.
Regular people should only accept people they know.
It is written.
Hey Rick ... you are putting too much thought into the social media thing. You may know or remember 10% of the people that want to add you as a friend on Facebook. The rest are people that you may have met once at some function or they have listened to you over the years. You do not know me, but I feel I sort of know you, from listening to you on the radio and seeing you on the tube (...the great promo with you, Roger & Marilyn sitting on the park bench ..would love to get your thoughts on that). On Facebook, that is enough to qualify as a friend !! You may not know them, but they / we know you - accept the friend request !
Rules? In the grocery store, when all of a sudden a cashier shows up and opens a new checkout... the next guy at the closest checkout should get priority, but another guy rushes in and gets served first..they need a rule for that !
Toronto Mike: Ah...it's you again. You're the guy who got me involved in this. Should I say thanks...or should I say what the the hell did you get me into? But thanks for doing all you did. I just have trouble becoming friends with a cartoon character. Lovers maybe. But can we really ever be friends?
Rick 2: I get what your saying but the whole thing is a little frightening to someone who's spent his life trying to avoid this kind of exposure. (I blame Torontomike for all of this). I know what you mean about knowing people you listen to or watch. I live close to Barrie and watch A Channel news ever night. It's not a big city so you bump into them at the grocery store once in a while. You're right, I just figure I know them. Once I get my dad straightened away I'll do a post on how that "park bench" commerical came about. The 3 of us were shocked when we found out what was going on.
Hodgie, I think you chose the wrong profession. When tens of thousands of people wake up to your voice every morning, people will feel like they know you. You belong to the masses.
If you wanted to avoid exposure, I could have helped you with that. You should have called earlier in your career.
Mike: What did you have in mind? Sometimes you scare the hell out of me. You know just about all of my secrets.
Rule - If you insist on wearing Croc's, do not wear socks...
TOTALLY agree with you about everything... especially the Timmy's and holding open the door. One thing I DON'T think should a rule is tipping at Timmy's though. Since when did it become mandatory to tip? I actually got a dirty look at Subway last week because I didn't tip. Like what the hell!?!?
I love this post and truly believe there are rules that usually go unspoken but everyone should folllow.......
Stay to the right
Let the people exiting the elevator off before rushing to get into it
No talking during movies or using cell phones
Don't steal other people's food in the office fridge
While driving if your trying to get over and someone nicely lets you into their lane, give a courtesy thank you wave
While walking in crowded areas, do not stop right in the middle of foot traffic to look at a map, answer the phone, etc. Just step off to the side, out of the direct path of traffic to handle your business
If you have 20 items in your cart and you've stepped up to the 15 or 10 items-or-less line expect people to stare at you like they will kill you
If you run into a friend at the supermarket and want to have a chat, go talk to each other somewhere out of the way of those who are trying to do their shopping
Cover your mouth when you cough and yawn
and my personal favorite......
Get your own newspaper/magazines. It's not polite to look over the shoulder to read whatever I'm reading, especially if I feel you breathing down on me.
Jill, love this. These are great. I especially like the courtesey wave. How much effort can it take? And people chatting in grocery stores. I live in a smaller community where everyone knows each other. Saturday shopping is like a church social. You want to say...less talk...more shop. thanks