Every now and then you run across an article that makes you smile. Gives you new hope. Lets you know that as bad as you are at something there's an upside. Saw this one the other day..."Being Bad At Relationships Is Good For Survival". It was on LiveScience.com.
Here's the premise. People who are good at relationships are optomistic about life. They don't look at things negatively. Their world is safe. Sounds peachy keen doesn't it? (peachy keen?) Ah, but here's the dilemma. These people tend to react slowly to problems. Their rose coloured glasses get fogged up. What could go wrong? Not just with their relationships. With everything.
The article made the point that people who are good at relationships didn't smell smoke as quickly as people who are bad at relationships. Okay, maybe they had a cold but the research showed that people who dis the bliss are more inclined to see the downside of the situation. They react faster to the warning signs.
This is good news for me. I've had several, what you could term, major relationships in my life. None ended well.
All 4 of them had a "get to know you" period. You know, first you move in a toothbrush, then you get your own underware drawer, then you're allowed to stack beer in the fridge, bring over your flat screen, eat over the sink, stack your comic books on the book shelf, bring over your bean bag chair but not your friends. That's your choice, not her's. You can be yourself around your friends. That's a side you don't want to show....just yet.
Sometimes I blame my mother for putting a hex on my co-habitation probation. To her I was wandering through Dante's Inferno. She would tell me..."You'd better not live together, it's a sin...no good can come of it". She was clarivoyant, an augur, an oracle. I should have known not to quibble with a sibyl. She called it.
But from those negatives, comes a positive. Being bad at relationships is good for survival. You may be locked in wedded bliss but chances are I'll see the truck run the red light before you will. I'll be looking for something to go wrong. The research says you'll be slower to react.
'Course I have no idea if this article is valid. But I'll take it. Maybe even live longer than those kids from "Fame".
I think I'm pretty good at relationships....I've had 2 VERY loooong ones...10 & 20 years! But I can also see the warning signs pretty good. Example: had a date with this guy, rich, beautiful house, good sense of humour, good looking, etc., BUT, after eating pizza on the couch in front of the TV one night, he proceeded to pick his nose...then roll it up and drop it into the pizza box, oblivious to my presence....I ran from that one....I didn't even need "women's intuition". Although thinking back, I should have run from the 10 year guy after the first date! Single is good!!!
Debs: Booger in the pizza box. You've just given every guy an out. I've done a lot of dumb things but never boogered the box.
Oh, and there was pizza in the box at the time of the "booger dropping" you know, just for that added touch!
Now this is what I call - FUN in the bedroom.