One of the things with face book that confuses me is the list you get to choose from in the relationship category to reveal your status to your virtual cronies. Some are straight forward. Single is single and I would assume availavble. In a relationship, engaged and married means you've made a committment. In an open relationship means you're commited but you're also open to invitations. Rule of thumb, if you put down "in an open relationship' on your profile page make sure you're partner knows about it other wise you'll get a disin' for goin' fishin'.
What if you're in a virtual relationship. Never met, never touched, never spoken on the phone but you've developed network nearness. Does that count as a relationship? If you're in a relationship are you cheating?
Widowed is pretty straight forward. Complicated, not so much.
All relationships are complicated. Any time you have a partner things can get puzzling, problematic and preplexing. I speak from experience. One of the things I would always do was work out my arguement before hand. I would go over it and over it knowing that the points I was trying to make weren't open to interpretation. There's a flaw to this. I always worked under the assaumption that this would be a monologue. But 30 seconds in it would turn into a dialogue. Ruthless repartee. I never did manage to make my points or any point.
But to term you're relationship status complicated is a little murky. Are you committed but troubled? Is the committment in trouble? I read some posts on f/b from people who said their relationship was complicated. They were trashing their partner in wanton terms letting us all know that the partner was unwanted. But,,,and this is a big but...they were still their partner.
By complicated you could mean you're bored with your accord and would like to get out. You're married but plan to get out because the rapport is no more. You could be in the process of separating but still cohabitating. You could be separated. Is the estrangement arrangement a trial separation? You could be legally seperated. The matrimony might be phony but you're still legally attatched.
If a person has their relationship status down as complicated. Does that make Them available? Well yes I guess but do want the baggage train that comes with it. I've been asked by f/b friends what exaclty my definition of complicated is. I hem and I haw and try to explain in round about terms. Tell the truth it would be easier to be in an open relationship rather than a relationship that's open to debate. Facebook could do us a favour and give us a category like...enter at your own risk.
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